“Everything
that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
~Carl Gustav Jung
What if we were to replace
irritation with fascination? This is not as ridiculous a thought as what it might
originally seem. Yet, we need to overcome our pride in order to unlock the enigma
that contains the hidden compartment of our inner lament.
Our greatest hates may indeed be
those things we have about ourselves at an unconscious level. Why is it we feel
so passionate, indifferent, or disgusted? Many times we have no logical
response to such a question.
But what we can gain from such an
enquiry is we may glimpse a mystery. We do not know ourselves like we think we
do. God may know, but really we don’t.
Making Conscious The Unconscious Mind
There is nothing twisted and
dreamy about the concept of exploring the fullest mind.
Caverns below what we consciously
know is a plethora of meaning derived from some of the earliest experiences we
ever had—nearly all of which we cannot remember. So much that has happened to
us is locked away, and though, as a shadow, it directs our lives, we hardly
give it a moment’s credence.
We are not condemned by fate so
much as we are compelled by our deeper minds.
And whilst we refuse to access the
codes written so deeply, we refuse ourselves the power to change, for we do not
take the unconscious mind seriously. And because we do not make the unconscious
mind conscious we lack the power to change.
It would be better for us to take
whatever cues we can draw from our reactions to people and life and our
passions and dreams, and even our nightmares, and so turn them into knowledge.
Everything that happens to us happens for a reason.
A goal of life is to learn about
ourselves and accept ourselves; every dark bit.
Celebrating Even The Irritations
Depending on our make-up, the
occasions of life reveal us to ourselves. What irritates, teaches. What
infuriates, tutors us. What we despise, as it comes to our attention, enthrals only
the learner’s understanding.
It’s up to us whether we learn or
not, or whether we proudly refuse the lesson that God, via our experience, is
providing us.
And truth be told we refuse far
many more lessons than we, with an open mind, accept. And though this is an
abomination before God, God does not give up. As we learn to view the
irritation, the annoyance, the fear, and the disgust, etc, with fresh
externalised eyes, God is showing us a new thing about ourselves.
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We change ourselves by learning
about ourselves. We can do nothing with ourselves until we dig deep in and
below the dirty material we have. When we are no longer afraid of ourselves, we
are no longer afraid of anything.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.
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