Establishing the goals of our desires stands on two things: honesty with others and faith in ourselves.
There are so many things that command our attentions so far as notions of success are concerned. Our whole self-concept many times is at the beck and call of how the outcomes of life flow. These times everything stands on how the world is reflecting itself back to us.
True success is always best measured first on the spiritual plane. After all, we need to feel successful, which confirms our thoughts of success.
An alignment of both the heart and mind is best to reinforce both aspects of honesty with others and faith in ourselves. But many negate the emphasis of the spiritual side of things and don’t reap the full power of what success they could otherwise have.
Firstly, let’s define success. I’ll use this definition. Success: feeling good about planning well and achieving our reasonable goals.
Honesty with Others
This can be hard to do. It’s like what’s needed is to place faith in others, trusting them regarding their responses to what we’re doing. When some of have hurt us or we feel we’re likely to be rejected it can be enormously difficult to be honest with others.
So, it takes courage. Our honesty and the dedication to truth we have will serve us well, even though there may be small losses (which might appear large at the time) along the way.
Perhaps the best thing about being honest with others, especially those trustworthy others, is we can gain from their insight on things. We can reap the benefit of their wisdom so far as it concerns us and our goals and the way we’re going about them. (And, of course, it needs to be said, we don’t have to trust people who have hurt us and have nothing to do with the achievement of our objectives.)
Faith in Ourselves
If trusting others is a big idea for some, many more have trouble having true faith in themselves to succeed at whatever reasonable endeavour they choose.
As human beings we seem confined to a reality of self-doubt at times as our minds range the landscape of possibility and imagination, dredging up all sorts of scary scenarios and outcomes.
And if we’re going to learn how to be consistently successful (bearing in mind our original definition of success) we’re best served in keeping a lid on our imaginations, or at least getting into the habit of checking our thoughts for fact and truth. Doubts based primarily in fear are really just nuisance value; they’re keeping us from achieving our goals as well as diluting the joy we’d otherwise have along the way.
These Two Together
When we’ve combined honesty with others with faith in ourselves we see a transparent vision of our courageous, authentic selves.
Nothing out of this world is stopping us. We’re both on the right track and our methods for staying right-tracked are meaningful. We have a calmly confident poise about us. Most of all, we’re prepared to make the sacrifices we need to, to get where we’re going.
© 2010 S. J. Wickham.