“That’s just wrong!” I barked consciously within myself as the third critical blow within a minute was taken on recently.
Plans jilted, sharp retorts, tasks piled on top of one another, all of which meeting us unawares and unprepared... go figure!
The nature of wrongs done to us occurs in groups, have you noticed? For the times pass unnoticed that give us no grief whatsoever, and then a piffling ten minutes has us betwixt, such is this irony of life.
We are destined to always notice the trying times more than the good. It’s just our nature.
Countering the bank of wrongs that traps us in our mounting fury is a trick simply of our awareness.
“Ah, I notice ‘you’ now,” we say in doing this. Noting the situation as something of a threat to our peace, along with being a threat to the tranquillity of our relationships, is important. Once we know this we can do something positive about it in ensuring we respond as appropriately as we can—countering the darkened cloud of thick emotion.
Wrongs happen to all of us; the worst thing we can do is become offended by them or worse still, the people ‘responsible.’ It’s not their fault how we take things and how we react—they’re not the ones inside our heads or feeling with our hearts.
Forming the Habit of Response
Responding well needs to be more or less a habit if we’re to trust ourselves to act on our own behalf. That might sound rather strange but if someone else was to inhabit your body and act for you, you’d want some level of control, wouldn’t you?
It’s roughly the same arrangement for us when our emotions get out of hand; people wonder at times which version of us they’re dealing with. Consistency of response is something we should be able to offer all people we relate with.
The only way to form appropriate habits of response—that is a consistent way of courteous response—is to practise the practice. This takes focus, much congruent thought and reflection, and self discipline—all operating in focused unison.
Righting Our Wrongs
The only way we can right our wrongs is to absorb them the best we can. There’s nothing more we can do but do this in the moment, before then allowing our subconscious minds to mull with the information to decide, via the prompting of the conscious mind, whether further action is necessary, later. Most of the time it simply isn’t.
Most of the time we can laugh off (within ourselves) these things that wilfully come to trip us up.
© 2010 S. J. Wickham.