Isn’t it strange how people comment indifferently regarding a new hairstyle, the weight we’ve lost, or a new regime we’ve committed to. It’s natural that other people find change in us disarming, possibly threatening.
Not everyone has relative emotional freedom.
They are used to a set ‘version’ of us and ideas for change are not universally, or instantly, accepted. Their reticence is no reason to feel insulted or to cast a shadow over the change we’ve decided for.
Agreeing to live with this tension introduces us to a concept of change most fundamental. We need to have faith in ourselves enough to believe our vision so we can have a fighting chance of achieving it.
The Foundational Pillar
Cornerstones of change are borne inherently with the one who is changing, or who has changed. Consequently, the existence of tension within us regarding others’ reticence can be an indication that we, ourselves, have less than sure footing.
Addressing this tension is about refocusing our thinking so doubts are heard in truth and, therefore, quickly dispelled.
We can hardly blame others for not ‘catching the vision’ we have of ourselves if we’ve not resolved the tension within our own minds. The foundational pillar must be founded within us, first.
Nobody can do the transforming of us besides our will to comply with such a transformation—we, with God, can achieve it, but not without the faith that believes we can. Such a faith is the foundational pillar—it must start with us.
When Nothing Else Matters
The beauty attached to the step explained above—to reconcile within our minds the foundational pillar of faith that installs the change as part of us—is other people’s views no longer really count; unless it’s the people we trust. And they are likely to be the ones affirming the changes we’ve made.
Freedom appends itself as a by-product of accepting a new identity which is not limited by other peoples’ opinions.
When nothing else matters, and the views of those within our influence, for or against, don’t dissuade us, suddenly we derive power for change. Added to our faith in ourselves to install a change is the power to sustain it.
Embracing a transformed identity is first a personal choice to accept and own what we have become, or are becoming, or need to become. The views of indifferent others are not our concern. We value only the views of those we trust. Embracing change where it’s required is the biggest favour we can do for ourselves.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.