The keys to success in this life ride on integrity—and I’m talking TRUE success, not the appearance of success. But anxiety will get in the way if it’s unconscious and unacknowledged. By that I mean that I’m not talking about people with anxiety problems who are trying to manage their anxiety—that type of anxiety isn’t in the frame here.
The anxiety I’m speaking about is the moral kind, where the anxiety is caused through pride—you know, that pride of covetousness that must simply envy everyone and anything that has more or better.
We all know those who present with this anxiety, and it’s best to be on our guard with them. Do you hear the word, “boundaries”?
The person with unconscious, unacknowledged anxiety is never at peace because there’s always a conquest to be had or made. They always have an agenda—there is always something they want or “need”. They’re driven by conspiracy theory—a narrative that people are against them. They can’t be at peace because they have so many machinations of their ego going on in their minds and hearts.
Little wonder people don’t feel safe around such a person. You know the feeling when it’s the other person’s anxiety that leaks onto you and your joy, hope, and peace in that moment are stolen, killed, and destroyed. Your soul can feel intruded upon, even invaded.
When we’re with such a person, we naturally discern that to be on guard is right and appropriate, but we too must watch our own anxiety levels, especially empaths, who can be duped into rescuing a person who’s trying to emotionally swindle them.
Now, what presents as conniving and unsafe doesn’t at first viewing look like anxiety.
This is where one anxiety is differentiated with another. The typical kind of anxiety is unexplained fear as it presents in our minds and bodies. It’s a conscious, acknowledged anxiety that we’d prefer to be gone. It’s often the result of trauma being done to us, and the bearing of that trauma.
Anxiety that causes a person to be duplicitous is not driven from their trauma but is often from a place that causes trauma. Anxiety that causes a person to be duplicitous comes from a heart devoted to stealing from others, killing the hope of others who are in their way, and quietly or not so quietly destroying people and their reputations.
Watch for the duplicity of a person who seems nice to someone and then talks behind their back. You can be assured that in their being nice to you, there’s another more insidious narrative about you when you’re not around, IF you present a threat to them. And let’s face it, when life is a bounty of conquests to be won, you’ll get in the way at some point or other.
Watch for the leader who has this unconscious, unacknowledged anxiety in their heart.
Their countenance is like a pacing lion, prowling and only patient for one reason—to pounce at the right time. They may accuse you of being inconsistent with your attitude on things, but the real problem is you don’t have the freedom to be truthful with them—they won’t allow you to be. See how their duplicity fosters duplicity in you and others. Their leadership is toxic.
I write this to help you see. Once you see it you can’t unsee it, and it becomes protective as your discernment is piqued and fortified.
When intuition is raised to the level of “I just don’t feel comfortable around that person” we start to watch more intently for why. You may see that their covetous anxious way leaks onto you and you can’t be at peace or feel safe around them.
Think now of the leader or person of influence who appears relaxed, and you find that your heart is at ease because of it. It’s like they give you permission to be yourself. If you ask them why they seem to be at peace, they’ll probably tell you that they don’t have an agenda. They’re not trying to stitch anyone up. That’s why your heart can tell you can trust them.
Think of that leader or the person in your life who doesn’t appear to have an agenda and they may even be an encouragement to you and others. You feel you’re free to be honest with them and to express yourself.
The best people will actually listen when you have something to say, and their honest curiosity demonstrates humility and their abject lack of conniving anxiety.
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I want to repeat what I mentioned earlier about the source of anxiety. There’s a huge difference between struggling with an anxiety that happens to you because of trauma, and a person being anxious because their motive is to get something they don’t have out of you or others or situations. The latter person gives the former person more reason to be anxious.
The anxiety that is a result of another’s behaviour is the trauma that so many bear.
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