People surround us in life whether we like that fact or not. There are some situations where we want people and some where we don’t want people. In those situations we do desire people we should let them come to us, never forcing the pace, or we might, by our actions scare them off. We see here that an unnatural forcing of the pace manufactures a set of circumstances that most people find unpalatable. Besides, it would prove worry to do this.
It’s all a question of balance. The most balanced person can live with or without people. People neither scare them nor does the lack of people intuit loneliness. These people ‘just are’ whether they’re with people or not.
And, surely, this is what we should be growing toward. Being people not only comfortable with people, but also alone must be the zenith of human ‘being’ on this planet, in this life.
Yet, we seem destined to swing from one extreme to the other. I certainly do. The are times when I can’t stand to be around people; others too when I don’t want to be alone. Of course, there are times when I’m happy either way too.
The quality that people find most endearing in a fellow human being is authenticity. If we can be ourselves around people they too can be themselves. We give them permission (funnily enough) to be themselves by virtue of how we interact with them, though some people are so strong within themselves, with ineradicably solid characters, they can simply be themselves no matter the baggage we might carry as we interact with them.
And we too could be like these people—so comfortable either with or without people. This is the free spirit. This is the way life was meant to be from the beginning. And it’s a life we can all have now, provided we’re happy to be developed.
And our development toward these ends will be helped by nothing more than a complete dedication to truth. We must get to a point where we’re not afraid of anything bar the wisdom constructs of the world and the universe, for these embody truth.
All our relationships will take a different and better slant when exposed to truth. Both the quality and the amount of (quality) friendships will increase.
The truth is, always has been, and always will be. It’s our beginning, middle and end. It’s ever reliable. Taste and you will see.