“God, make me a man with thick skin and a soft
heart. Make me a man who is tough and tender. Make me tough so I can handle
life. Make me tender so I can love people. God, make me a man.”
— Darrin Patrick, Church
Planter (2010)
On the day of my induction to
pastoral ministry at Lakeside Baptist Church
in Perth, Western
Australia, the very day I write this in fact, I was
given this quote, above, that rings with the drone of ancient truth through the
Spirit in me. It was given to me by a younger man, a high-performance athlete,
a man after the heart of God in being a real man; a man I have the utmost
respect for because of the ardency through which he adheres to the truth in his
life. So, when he gave me a special hand-written note—with the quote inscribed
within it—it was the most treasured object and interaction I took from the day.
The note was both an encouragement
and a challenge.
I could not help exploring this
wisdom from God through his faithful servant. The note was signed off, “Much love
& HAZAK.” An encouragement and challenge.
Be Strong (Hebrew: Hazak)
The core of the message, the
precious ore that is reclaimed in the words, presented as a stockpile of manly
beauty, is to be strong. But to be strong is to be shrewd around what it really means.
To have thick skin and a soft
heart is no easy task; perhaps there is nothing harder. But this is the
inevitable task for the man of God—the man resonating Christ from within and permeating
outwards.
The prayer I was given reflects
the prayer I’m sure God wants all of us men to pray. Being that it’s a prayer
from the Spirit of God, himself, to me, through this faithful brother in
Christ, it shall be my prayer now, too.
To be strong is not much to do
with physical strength, though at the same time it is everything about the application of courage that
underpins physical strength in the heat of battle. It seems to me that the
strength we apply in a physical battle is that selfsame strength we apply in a
spiritual battle. It comes from within; from the Holy Spirit within, bound upon
our obedience to the Spirit.
Such strength to “be strong” is
manifest in the perfect balance of having thick skin yet a soft heart; a thing
I will now ever strive for. Thick skin is for the challenges and pressures of
life—some of which are relational. A soft heart is all relational; the ability
to allow others their success even if at a personal cost.
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God, make me a man; honest with
myself, honest with others as much as you will allow, and above all honest with
you. My honesty will join your blessing to make me thick-skinned yet
soft-hearted. Then I will be a man. AMEN.
© 2013 S. J. Wickham.
Dedicated to Ben Beran.
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