Wisdom in this life is determined by taking responsibility for our life and allowing others to take responsibility for theirs.
In sum, this is the internal locus of control, staying within OUR control.
It is staying within our sphere of influence. It is accepting and embracing the limitations of our control. It is accepting that we can do what we can do, that we should do what we can.
What I think, say, and do – all of it – is MY responsibility. Nobody else can be accountable for it. Nobody else is responsible for that which is within only my control.
Just the same, I’m not accountable for what another person thinks, says, or does. That’s their choice. I cannot control what you think, say, or do, but you can. I can affect and impact on others, but it is their choice how they act as it is mine how I act when others affect and impact me.
When we stay within our control, we master the moment, and we live our best life in the moment, and joy, hope, and peace come into view.
Does it simplify life too much to say that there is one main goal and that this is it? I don’t think so. If only we can accept the things WE cannot change and change what WE can, we live The Serenity Prayer. We need serenity in our life to do these very things, just as doing these things gives us serenity. When we have these, we have self-care.
In too many respects, we make life more complicated than it needs to be. If we truly want to succeed in any endeavour in life, it is good to come back to this unchanging truth:
Be responsible for what WE alone are responsible for.
The challenge is to live out of this paradigm and attest to its power. When we stay in this paradigm, we soon find the cogency of its power. We live it out. When we stay in this, we find the freedom of having been freed of needing to control what we cannot change and of accepting the control we have. This simple wisdom elixir of living this out solves many mental health maladies or significantly helps us manage them.
If we can see that this one thing leads to the successful life, we redefine for ourselves what true success looks like — as a spiritual truth. Then we realise there’s nothing more powerful. This simple truth sets us free, and it is the key to gratitude, hope, joy, and peace.
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