We all suffer the negative
effects of anxiety, but some suffer more than most.
When thinking about ways to
reduce anxiety, through the frame of faith, I don’t think we can go past this
advice, some of which I’ve learned through counselling studies and practice,
and some through experience. The LORD says:
“Be still, and know that I am
God!”
— Psalm 46:10a (NRSV)
That said, and that borne
squarely in mind, the following might also help, especially when we find ‘being
still’ next to impossible:
1. Stop
the Self-Condemnation – The anxious person increases their anxiety when they castigate
themselves for being anxious. We ought to consciously remind ourselves that
anxiety is not a shameful state to be in. Our feelings are valid. We need to
stop blaming ourselves for being anxious.
2. Develop
a Relationship with Our Fears – When we can approach our fear,
coming alongside it and giving it its due, we can learn from it, and we
therefore avoid it less.
3. Am I
feeling anxious today? – It’s a reasonable question. If we are feeling more anxious than
normal we may be able to more consciously apply some proactive techniques. We
don’t freewheel in worry so much if we are trying to do something about it.
4. Attempt
to Be in Two Psychological Places Simultaneously – The skill of the counsellor
in treating anxiety is to simultaneously live both the anxious road and the
well-adjusted ‘coping’ road. Likewise, for us, if we can keep a foot in both
camps, just a little more perspective may be available.
5. Protect
Our Thinking and Thought World – One of the biggest threats is what
anxiety does to our thought world. When our minds freeze it is even more
important to make ourselves think; to not avoid thinking. Sometimes simply
doing something that doesn’t involve thinking is a way to break through such a
mental rut.
6. Find a
Safe Place for Change – Few people with anxiety problems are happy to remain there. The key
to change is finding a safe place to explore physical, psychological, and
behavioural strategies. There may be several opportunities to find a safe
place; we may need to capitalise on several strategies.
7. Am I
more emotionally attuned than most? – Anxious people tend to be more
sensitive regarding the emotional plight of others. They may be more naturally
empathic. Their experience with anxiety has probably nurtured warmth within
them. This, of itself, is something to celebrate.
8. What
Attachment Styles Explain – There is a lot of research to suggest our anxiety is driven from
maladaptive attachment — to our parents and guardian-figures, well before we
had any decisive influence over our lives. It is not our fault we are anxious.
And we can always do some work to improve our circumstances.
9.
Understand the Nature of Avoidance – When we conceive that our fears
cause us to develop avoidance strategies, whilst facing up to our fears makes
them melt away, we see the value in challenging those things we avoid.
10. Do I
worry a lot? – Another
fair question. It appears that the right hemisphere of our brains — the
emotional side — is over-involved in worry, yet the left hemisphere — the more
logical side — can easily assist. The logical side helps when it problem
solves. When we worry we should ask more often, “What can I do about it?” Doing
helps. Doing the practical helps reduce worry. We do what we can; and we accept
the rest.
11. The
Value of Challenge – When routine life provides its own anxieties, unpredictability
threatens to send us over the edge. It is a good thing, however, to get
involved in some novelty; to push ourselves to try new things; to take new and
little risks. Can we still feel safe in slightly ambiguous situations?
12.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) – This is a simple technique, along
with diaphragmatic breathing, and other physical techniques, can help in a very
practical way to relieve anxiety symptoms and assist our confidence.
***
The fact we suffer from anxiety
is not our fault. But we can do something about it.
© 2012, 2015 S. J. Wickham.
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