When I’m vulnerable my psychology
sits atop a knife’s edge; I either progress to repentance or topple into
resentment. And it’s people who just happen to benefit or pay.
I am as prone to rejection as the
next person, and I don’t buy it when people say they aren’t. There are people
who exist in a safe bubble of acceptance which says even more about the power
of rejection in their lives.
The continuum of acceptance and
rejection is possibly the most powerful force. And it all begins in the mind; a
mind responding to what the heart feels.
I can tell you that when I’ve felt
most vulnerable, I have been most susceptible to rejecting others. When I’ve
felt rejected, I’ve tended to respond by rejecting. When I’ve felt accepted,
the vulnerable feelings vanish, and acceptance is easy. There is one poignant
example where this is rife: in those who have influence over me; a power I have
given them. I could be much less susceptible to a person’s rejection if they
have no influence on me or power over me, but as soon as they do I have to
admit susceptibility. I do not consider those I serve as those who have
influence on me or power over me.
It’s those I look up to who I
perceive don’t accept me who I’m liable to reject in response to their
rejection.
The mind fights to be accepted, and
the heart battles for love. Where there is acceptance and feelings of love,
there is safety and wellbeing.
Acknowledge the drive for acceptance
in others. Accept everyone as they are and experience less rejection.
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