Saturday, July 2, 2011

The Way Our Grief REALLY Works

First we obviously deny. Then what follows: anger then bargaining, some more denial, a few more seconds of bargaining after which a little bit more anger, then through a fleeting period of acceptance, besides the moments of depression that comprise the valley of reality.

Grief is not a linear process.

It is normal to experience sharp volleys of anger even after we’ve primarily reached acceptance.

It is normal to continue to bargain.

It is normal to have the occasional depressed moment; even after we’ve well landed in acceptance.

Grief lasts longer than we want it to.

This we must plainly accept, for it is the reality. But we must also understand that acceptance is a land that we conditionally inhabit. Taking a sojourn from time to time is normal.

© 2011 S. J. Wickham.

1 comment:

  1. Someone once said that grief is like a garden. I've found that to be true. Some days there are roses. Some days briar bushes.
    I'm thankful that I am never in the garden alone. God walks with me...all the way.


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