Broken hearts are inevitable in this life. At some point, our heart is bound to be broken.
Unless you’re the kind of person who is not susceptible to having your dreams dashed (though most of us are) you will have faced the ignominy of being thrust into shock, numbness, disappointment, rage, and depression for what was taken from you.
The nature of life is it gives and takes away. Biblical character Job (1:21) said, “You give and take away, blessed be your name, God.” It is hard for all of us to respond like this.
It’s understandable that we feel brokenhearted in loss.
It’s the full gamut of grief at times.
Be aware, however, of the impact on us and on others in being brokenhearted. It can cause us to become cynical, bitter, resentful, even hurtful in reaction. That’s the anger taking over, the anger suppressing the truer sorrow we’re really feeling.
Anger fills the void of a sadness bypassed because we won’t or can’t go there.
If we go to sorrow and stay there, there we will heal, and there we won’t hurt—ourselves or others. We’ve all heard the truism, “hurt people hurt people,” and that’s the point of this.
Why allow a bad thing that’s happened to us
sabotage what good things are coming?
Life hurts at times. Abundance enters a life that refuses to be defined by heartbreak.
Grieve the loss, be sad, cry tears, be honest with trustworthy others, receive support, but also be ready for bitterness, understand it’s anger for concealed, unrequited sadness in the perceived injustice.
Our stories are not over in heartbreak. We have the agency of a response we can choose.
Feel the sadness enough in the evening
that the joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5).
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