LOVE seems such a confused concept in
this ‘love is love’ age. Love is only love when we understand that love joins
emotion with action. Love that is emotion without action is merely infatuation.
This is not to cast aspersions on the love enjoyed by two consensual adults,
where there is the assumption of love giving itself for the other. But a love
that only expects is not love.
There is the realm
of love far more veritable than the love of romance. We must give our partner
our love in ways they feel loved, but beyond romantic relationships the very
same principle applies.
Love is not about
me. It’s not about you. It’s about the other
person. If we cannot get beyond ourselves we cannot love, and, in that, we do
not live the life of Christ.
Love is about response.
Love Is About Response
Love is not about
how we feel at the offense given to us, but it is about the grace-configured response
we give.
If you hate being excluded,
Love others by including them.
If you hate being talked about,
Love others by refusing to talk about them.
If you hate being disrespected,
Love others by offering unconditional respect.
If you hate it when people don’t trust you,
Love others by trusting them.
If you hate being not listened to,
Love others by listening to them.
Love others by including them.
If you hate being talked about,
Love others by refusing to talk about them.
If you hate being disrespected,
Love others by offering unconditional respect.
If you hate it when people don’t trust you,
Love others by trusting them.
If you hate being not listened to,
Love others by listening to them.
God
honours our responses of advocacy. God instructs us to turn the injustices we
suffer into love through becoming an advocate for others. Advocacy is how we
avoid bitterness. We turn the injustices meted out to us, inwardly, outwardly
through advocacy for others’ needs.
When
we lack, God is showing us where others lack too. He is showing us how to love
them through what we lack. We get to feel how others feel so we can give them
empathy, and by giving them empathy, God gives us the empathy we need through
how others are blessed by our giving of empathy to them.
God’s
love is real when we love others with His love.
And the same can be said for what we experience when we make
ourselves nothing so that someone who is feeling worthless can feel something
of worth coming in. We don’t do it out of our neediness — quite the opposite — we
do it out of strength that can come only from love.
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Love is real when we love others
with a love that works for them.
Love makes space for the needy to
enter in, to dwell, and to be satisfied, on their own terms.
Love is not satisfied to be just a
feeling. It works hard and wants the best for the other person.
© 2015 Steve Wickham.
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